Have you ever said one thing to a person, and they hear something totally different? Did you take time to establish where your intended message could have gotten distorted?
Conscious communication is about full awareness of what is informing what you say, what your agenda is in saying what you say, and what the real intended impact of your speaking is. Conscious communication also includes full awareness of the space within which your listener is going to receive the message. We cannot ignore the circumstance within which the communication is taking place.
The benefit of scanning your environment before you communicate is that you will hopefully choose words that will enable you to say exactly what you want to say. Nothing less, nothing more. You can then also receive the response taking full responsibility for creating it.
So, there is no blaming people for misunderstanding, not listening…
Conscious communication is taking full responsibility for getting the message across accurately. Conscious communication is a powerful tool in functional relationships, both at home and in the workplace.
Nathaniel Branded, in his book The Six Pillars of Self-esteem, lists ‘living consciously’ as one of the six pillars. What do you think it means to live consciously? I see it as meaning that I am almost always watching myself; what I say, what I think, and what I do.
Why would I choose something that sounds so unnatural? The thing is, once I choose who I want to be, I owe it to myself to ensure that I align my whole existence to that choice.
So, the benefit that I would get from living consciously is that I take ownership for being who I have chosen to be. I also stay in integrity, and I honour myself by staying aligned.
Who do you choose to be? How much responsibility are you prepared to take to BE that person? What is the benefit? Is it important enough for you to invest in mastering the alignment?
A good start could be getting a coach who can introduce self-coaching tools to you, so that beyond the coaching cycle, you continue to stay aligned, and live consciously. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
What could be your worst experience with a coach? Would you feel completely comfortable to be vulnerable, open up, acknowledge your weaknesses and fears if you were sitting in front of a coach who is scared, insecure, and who thinks that there is something wrong with not knowing?
A coach is a person who is ok in his/her skin. A coach creates a safe space for a client to deal with insecurities, as a result, even before a coaching session, a coach lives being ok with who he/she is. A coaching session for a coach is not a scene for acting authentic. A coach’s life is a platform to BE authentic.
So all of us coaches remain in this journey of continuing to grow our authenticity, so that we get better at creating a safe space for clients to confront their terror barriers and grow.
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Have you considered that organisations have an emotional side to them? So, personal EQ starts with self-knowledge. Knowing self enables one to self-management. The added benefit is that one is more conscious of who others are, and this results in relationship management. Core components being compassion and non-judgement. It is the same with organisational intelligence, OQ. The starting point is that an organisation knows itself, use the self-knowledge to choose a culture that will best serve the achievement of its goals, and self-manage, to ensure that the environment created allows the desired achievement.
I am excited about the growing commitment from business to embrace Coaching as a Performance Management Tool. What I would like to see is all managers consciously align Performance Management with the growing commitment to make employees succeed…