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The Power of Questions

 

I presented a short talk on Money to a small group at a company recently.

One of the attendees asked me a question about certain events that keep happening in his life. He asked: “Why does this keep happening to me?” 

 

Now that kind of question is not very empowering is it? It keeps you stuck in the past.

We ask ourselves questions all the time – or, you will find yourself constantly looking for an answer to a question you unconsciously asked.

We are conditioned to focus our questions on the past and what is wrong and what didn’t happen or what didn’t work.

 

Check with yourself. Do you find yourself asking questions (or looking for answers to questions) that focus on the past?

Questions like:

Why did this happen to me?

Why am I always late?

Why did I do that?

Why am I not getting attention from my spouse?

How did this happen to me again?

 

Every time you ask yourself a question, your mind will look for the answer. And it finds many answers because you are telling your mind to focus your attention on that.

Take this for example: Why do I always have bad luck with money? Why do people always take advantage of me?

Your mind goes looking. The answers to those questions could be: Because I’m a nobody, I am weak, I don’t stand up for myself, I don’t know any better, I’m too nice, I didn’t learn any different, I’m useless… and so on.

 

Although those questions could offer some valuable information about yourself and your behaviours, they are generally not beneficial to where you want to go or the type of person you want to be.

Stay looking for answers to these questions and you may find yourself a little depressed – Low energy, frustrated, disappointed, sad, upset, inadequate, lonely… overwhelm!

You will find that the mental or emotional state you are looking for is not found in answering these types of questions.

 

Gosh, I see in my own life that for a substantial part of my life I was looking for answers to disempowering questions. For about two years of my life (maybe longer… hmm) I realised that I was getting worse and worse and in a lower state, beating myself up all the time and not getting results. Not living the life I wanted to. I didn’t know that I could shift my state and consequently the results I was getting just by changing the questions I was answering.

 

As a coach I learnt about the power of asking meaningful questions and this year I have been experimenting with questions to shift my mental and emotional state. And guess what, it works J.

Every time I find myself in a low state, I start asking questions like:

 

What do I need to do to be happy right now?

How can I complete my work and have fun in the process?

Who do I need to be to create success in my life?

How can I increase my energy today?

What am I most grateful for today?

What do I need to do to increase my income?

What can I do today that will leave me feeling inspired and fulfilled?

 

These change your focus and your attention goes to something more meaningful in your life and more toward what you want rather than what you don’t want.

Now the trick is that you actually got to do the work and look for the answers. The best is to sit and write down the answers until you experience the shift in your state of being.

I have a list of questions that I use daily to shift my state of being. Let me know what you discover for yourself by using questions on a daily basis.

 

Additionally, if you are experiencing repeat patterns that don’t budge, well that’s when you may have a need for  a deeper intervention.

Next month I will share some information on trauma and how we freeze in a pattern or a state as a result of trauma and how to get out of it.

 

I heard this quote many years ago and it stuck with me:

 

The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, rather a process of creation.

You are not discovering but creating yourself anew. Seek therefore not to find out who you are, seek to determine who you want to be.

 

In exploring what a Conscious Leader leading in a Conscious Business pursuing Conscious Capitalism actually means, the views are ever-evolving and building on one another to form a clearer picture that will light the way for leaders drawn to pursuing this path.

This paper describes a perspective on where a Conscious Leader lies in comparison to a traditional leader, aimed at making the territory clearer.  (.pdf available for download here).

Conscious Leadership can be viewed along two axes:

X – axis: The axis of DOING, comprised of what the leader focuses on every day, how far his* (or her) worldview extends.

Y – axis: The axis of BEING, comprising who the leader is being in his role.  Being determines mindset, behaviour and way of interacting with others.

These two axes INTERSECT at the point of PROFIT.  Without profit, the business cannot exist.

The dotted red line denotes the traditional field of focus for leaders in a capitalist system: a focus on PROFIT and the SHAREHOLDERS to the business as being of primary importance.  All other stakeholders are secondary.

The extent of the leader’s ‘field of effect’ if governed by his EGO or IDENTITY.  Ego is the point around which all of us are contracted.  It represents our beliefs, our values and our conditioned patterns.  It also represents everything we think of as ‘mine’: my job, my house, my wife, my name – and everything we think of as ‘me’: I am a leader, I am a male, I am successful (or I am not), I work for XYZ company. It is the illusion of who we think we are, and when we are not able to see outside of this illusion we are subject to being governed by its conditioned patterns, thereby living and leading UNCONSCIOUSLY.

The ego is focused purely on self-perpetuation.  It is therefore founded in FEAR.  Fear of losing parts of ourselves.  Fear of losing our security.  Fear of losing our position.  Fear of uncertainty.  Fear of being made to be wrong, look bad or lose control of our circumstances.  It evokes in us DEFENSIVENESS against anything that threatens our sense of self.  These kinds of reactions are widespread and easily recognisable in most organisations – and in ourselves.

Pursuing PROFIT and POWER fits in very well with the nature of the ego-driven leader.  By securing profit and power at all costs, the leader gets to maintain the illusion of his own ego.

This becomes obviously limiting when one is able to extend one’s perspective to see beyond the context of the ego-driven leader.  Much more is available than the ego can see, namely the potential to act into a field of possibilities (as reported by modern day science via quantum physics) without the illusionary boundaries (mindset, beliefs, reactions) of the ego.  This field of possibilities is less accessible to the ego-full leader because he is too concerned about maintaining his position and his security.  He suffers from a mindset of SCARCITY rather than ABUNDANCE.

Even where traditional leaders may engage in SELF-DEVELOPMENT via traditional coaching, leadership programmes, the development of EQ and other forms of personal development and knowledge development, the EGO still rules.  Without becoming aware of one’s own ego and seeing its influence on our lives, and its inherently illusionary nature, the leader is limited to only ever going so far in his personal development.  At best, he can expect to understand more and more about his own STORY.  However, our story about ourselves, our life, what made us who we are, what our beliefs and patterns are, can only take us so far – to the outer limits of our own story.  It cannot take us beyond this.  To go beyond our own story we need to notice the illusion that the story is.  Our story is founded on our ego’s or identity’s patterns and responses – and, ultimately, our identity is not who we are.

At this point, in recognising this, the leader has the potential to step outside of his ego.  He becomes able to occupy a vantage point outside of his conditioned patterns and unconscious behaviour, observing it rather than having a perspective only from within it.  When the ego or identity is recognised for what it is, an illusion, the leader gains access to the field of being beyond ego.

At this point, the leader has entered into the field of the CONSCIOUS LEADER.  This is depicted by the placement of the green dotted line.  This is not to say that this green line represents the outer limits of the Conscious Leader.  Rather, it is meant to imply that anything outside of the red line depicting the ego enters into the field of the Conscious Leader.

He enters into a field of possibility where he is in creation much more than he is in reaction, and where DEEPENING his connection with his self and HEIGHTENING the expression of his authentic self becomes ever more possible.

Because the Conscious Leader is freer from the conditioned patterns and limitations of his ego, he is able to act less from fear and more in SERVICE OF THE GREATER WHOLE.  In Conscious Capitalism terms, this means acting for the GREATER SYSTEM of which the business is part.  Rather than relying on a focus on profit and shareholders as a way of maintaining security, the Conscious Leader is able to be far more abundant, extending his focus, widening his worldview and focusing on all stakeholders.  In Conscious Business terms, these include the employees, the suppliers, the community of which the business forms part, society, and the environment.

As practised in Conscious Capitalism, profit is still important.  However, it is not pursued at the expense of everything and everyone else connected to the business.  The Conscious Leader strives to maximize the benefits and coordinates the needs of all the stakeholders in the business, keeping his perspective wide and inclusive.

Conscious Leadership depicts a move from ‘me’ to ‘we’.  It requires one to move beyond one’s ego or identity so that one can act for the whole that is greater than oneself, the whole to which one and one’s business is connected.  The deepened BEING of the Conscious Leader enables him to connect with a HIGHER PURPOSE that is greater than profit alone.  Connecting to this higher purpose provides an energetic alignment for everyone connected to the business – and the Conscious Leader’s role is to coordinate this connection while ensuring that the business is run in an operationally sound manner as well.  Research indicates an increase of over nine times more profit in businesses run in this way and far more sustainability during tough times.

In terms of the coordinates of the Unconscious Leader, therefore, these can be seen to be located squarely within the red circle, wherever that leader’s ego might be placed.  The coordinates of the CONSCIOUS LEADER, on the other hand, exist anywhere outside of this area towards the green circle, with the possibility of expanding ever outwards into the space of possibility.  This represents a new way of leading and of doing business.

What another meeting? Do you dread the thought?

Running an effective meeting is more than sending out a meeting request to a number of people with a time and place. Time is a precious and limited resource that turning time spent in meetings into sustained results is a priority for any successful organization.  Successful meetings require planning, preparation, execution, and follow up prior, during, and after the meeting. With structure and order meetings become an effective tool and applying the steps used in the Beyond Coaching  training can have an amazing energized result.

 Starting with a clear purpose for the meeting clearly set out in the meeting request. Draw up an agenda then stick to the format and time allocated.

A useful format to follow is :

  • Where are we at today
  • Checking back on assignments/action items (Not getting stuck in story – it is either complete or not? Can you still complete and if so by when?)
  • What has happened since our last meeting
  • Discuss and reach agreement on what we want to achieve. Don’t finish any discussion in the meeting without deciding how to act on it.
  • How are we going to achieve the purpose/ what needs to be done
  • Assign tasks with deadlines and hold each other accountable.

Finally, after the meeting prepare and forward the minutes, This is simply a record of what was agreed upon or achieved and an action item list of who is responsible for what and my when.

When we are in integrity during a meeting and accept an assignment with commitment to complete by an agreed date we achieve so much more. Meetings now shift from being a reporting tool to an action tool.

 

Separation causes pain, and when we experience pain, it has to manifest somewhere in our lives.  Separation as I experience it, started in the belief that our Divine Source lives somewhere ‘outside’ of ourselves e.g. heaven.  With this belief, I created separation sub-consciously from myself and others, and that is painful!  What a revelation when I discovered that ‘The Divine’ lives in me, and you and everything and everybody around us.  I started studying shadow-work and then gained insight after a Consciousness Retreat  I attended with Marc Steinberg earlier this year.  By intensively working with dark and light shadows, I could then see how easy we can separate ourselves from other people if they do not fit into our self-created belief of who they should be or how they should behave.  I no longer feel separated from this powerful source, and no longer have the desire to exclude other people as not a part of me.

We can only be whole and serve a higher purpose if we live in unison and not in separation.  Take a look at everything in your life that causes pain.  Anything that causes pain, is driven by a lack of love.  This lack of love starts with lack of love for SELF and then separation follows.  My invitation is for you to look and see where you experience pain, and then find the source for that.  Once you have healed the source, you will have the freedom to love yourself and another unconditionally.

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